Gay fuckin’ pride!

Here’s a bit of what Wikipedia has to say about “gay pride”:
Pride parades (also known as pride marches, pride events, and pride festivals) are outdoor events celebrating lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, non-binary and queer (LGBTQ) social and self acceptance, achievements, legal rights, and pride. The events also at times serve as demonstrations for legal rights such as same-sex marriage. Most pride events occur annually, and some take place around June to commemorate the 1969 Stonewall riots in New York City, a pivotal moment in modern LGBTQ social movements. The parades seek to create community and honor the history of the movement. In 1970, pride and protest marches were held in Chicago, Los Angeles, New York City, and San Francisco around the first anniversary of Stonewall. The events became annual and grew internationally. In 2019, New York and the world celebrated the largest international Pride celebration in history: Stonewall 50 – WorldPride NYC 2019, produced by Heritage of Pride commemorating the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, with five million attending in Manhattan alone.


Last night, we had Jim and Carol over for dinner. David made smoked brisket and grilled potatoes and Dub and I made a big salad and cooked carrots – fresh out of his (and Jim’s) garden. Carol brought a wonderful, light-as-air lemon cake. It was just the five of us and we had a wonderful evening. After Dub and Buzz went to bed, we were sitting outside smoking some pot and I said “Sometimes I feel bad because we don’t do anything to promote gay rights. I mean, gay people have been fighting for equality since the 1969 Stonewall riots – and none of us ever do anything like that.”
Carol looked me in the eyes and said “Bullshit. You guys have done more for gay rights than anyone else in the history of Southwest Missouri. You neither hide nor flaunt being gay and you’ve shown a whole lot of people you’re decent, honest, hard workers and good parents. Hell, everyone down here likes you, and you’ll never know how much you’ve done for local acceptance of gay people.”
I think it was one of the nicest things anyone has ever said about us.

17 comments to Gay fuckin’ pride!

  • ray

    Beautiful, encouraging pictures, and so sexy, especially the first one! Thanks for this contribution to Pride Month, I wonder if there will be any parades in the States? Nothing will happen here, of course. 🙁

  • Jingle

    An inspired, and inspiring, post!! 🙂

    Because of COVID; most public celebrations were sadly, but necessarily, scrapped last year!! 🙁 Hopefully, things can get back to some level of “normalcy” this year!! Certainly next year…

    I well recognize the background in #37, it’s Diversey Parkway in Chicago!!

    I always like it when pic #48 brings us full circle back to #1!! You did that brilliantly here today!! 🙂

    Thank You!!

  • bw

    When I read your comment about not doing enough, I had the same thoughts as Carol, but not as eloquently stated. If ever anyone, gay or straight, need role models of how to live their lives and take care of their families, they should look to you guys.

    • Bill S

      Exactly as I was thinking, Bill. Hooray for Carol!!! Maybe we could accumulate all the narrative by URD in the blog, and publish it! There’s a summer project for you Ben!!!

      I remember the Stonewall Inn police raid. I was just barely 18 years old and I was not “out” even to myself. So it went completely under my radar. Even though I was physically only 60 minutes away (by train) I might as well have been on another planet….

      XOXO

      • unrulyadmin

        Bill. That’s a great idea. Not only do we have the URD narrative… but we have access to all of Dub’s memory books. It would be a fun project, but I think it’s more likely to happen in my retirement years. Right now, in addition to teaching, I’m busy with the plot layout, architectural details, curriculums and contracts on the new school. Plus, there’s daily living, boating, time with friends and (Yes!!!) sex with my hubby. Thanks for the suggestion. I’m pretty sure it’ll happen some day. xoxo Ben

        • mahtinp

          Ben,
          I like the idea of you doing it as a retirement project … if not only for yourselves, but almost then to publish as a memoir. We probably don’t give you enough credit for how well-written the blog is, but you’d definitely make a great author someday.
          Much Love,
          P&K

          • ray

            The blog is indeed very well-written, thank you for all the work you put in it, and thanks to all for their comments which make it perfect!

  • Alexander

    Ben and David,

    I love the way Carol steps up and emphatically says “bullshit.”
    It is admirable you want to do more. With your quiet determination, as Carol says, you have done more than five people in five lifetimes could hope to accomplish in the Ozarks!
    🇬🇧Keep Calm….and Pride On!🏳️‍🌈

    Alexander

  • Denny

    The gay community has come a very long way since the Stonewall riots of 1969, and we have every right to feel PRIDE all year long!!

    There are many Pride parades, parties and celebrations taking place in the larger cities all across America this month.

    David and Ben, from the moment you adopted Dub five years ago, and enrolled him in Miss Pam’s daycare/preschool, you have unwittingly been promoting the cause for gays so much more than you realize. I’m sure you were Pam’s first gay parents to enroll their child.

    Your gentle promotion on behalf of gays increased immensely when you moved to southern Missouri and met Jim and Carol for the first time. Immediately, Dub introduced you to them as his two daddies, and instantly, all the awkwardness of the moment faded forever. Dub made such an impression on Jim, scolding him for all the weeds in his garden, when he finally “met the parents”, you had friends and guardians forever – God help anyone who dared to utter an unkind word about you!!!

    Fast forward to Ms Evelyn, who entrusted her sweet Alyssa to the care of Chad and Raef, yet ANOTHER gay couple.

    Then, Nathan came into the picture, Diana was bowled over by Dub, and the word about gay couples spread even further.

    So, yeah, I second Carol’s motion – Bullshit! to the 10th power!!! Carol said it all, and so beautifully!!!

    David and Ben, you have done more for the gay cause than you give yourselves credit for!!! Be VERY PROUD!! AND, THANK YOU!!!

    I just love this post!! #28 and #32 say it all for me!

    XOXOXO

  • BobbyB

    OUTloud🌈Gay Proud

  • Alexander

    28=Max Emerson and Andres Camilos..good guys!

    • bw

      They have been together now over 5 years, and in gay relationships that must be equal to about 25 years. Andres is quite a roll model – military and now he works for Deloitte, and the big four accounting firms are not exactly bastions of liberal thought.

  • FredinMotul

    I also agree with Carol. Your daily lives promote our Community more than any Parade or Photo OP. Showing up, daily, normal and as Gay Parents in your community is essential for widespread acceptance in that community. Hats off Gents!

    BTW, Picture # 30 is so nice. The Men are Stefan and Sebastian of the Nomadic Boys. It is a Gay Travel Site with many unique destinations. They go places I would not dream of!! And yes, they are very nice too.

    Excellent Post Gentlemen. Thanks for all you do, even if you don’t think it is sufficient. Trust me it is more than most do!!!

  • mahtinp

    Gents,
    I definitely agree with the sentiment of Carol and everyone else. There is Pride being spread in your unobtrusive normalcy. You’ve shown what love is, and can do, to some very conservative people in a very conservative part of the country… and in many ways, you’ve also shown that to me since I found you in the earliest days of my coming out process. Thank you all for being an example, not necessarily of fist in the air rainbow flag Pride, but of the kind of constant, soft power, that drives the long march of progress.

    Happy Pride, Happy Loving Day, and may the Angels of Pulse be celebrating in paradise today and on all days.

    Much Love
    P & K

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