Dude potpourri – and an update on Dub.

From David: This is the first actual “potpourri” post we’ve done in a very long time. I used to do them frequently on various iterations of UnrulyDude and they were always a favorite because of the variety they presented. I hope you guys enjoy this bit of “dude potpourri” as much as we enjoyed putting it together!


Hey. Ben here. It’s time to wrap up our “gay porn and kids” posts with an update on Dub. As you probably know, he’s 9 1/2 years old now – and the joy of our lives. He was four when we finalized his adoption, so we’ve had a wonderful (almost) six years together. These days, he’s busy “being Dub.” The garden is finished for the year and he and Jim have plowed and disked it so it’ll be ready next Spring. We’ve had lettuce, radishes, onions, asparagus, cauliflower, potatoes, cucumbers, corn, tomatoes and more – and that pretty much describes Dub’s summer food choices. He texts both Nathan and Diana every day and goes over to see the boys at least once a week. He thinks they’re his brothers… and I guess in a way they are.
He loves school and wants to learn about everything – all at once. He’s a big help in the classroom because he sort of intuitively knows when the other kids are struggling with something… and how to help them. Chad laughs and says he has “the wisdom of a magus and the enthusiasm of a child.”
He’s been following the news about the availability of Pfizer’s Covid vaccine for
5 to 11 year olds and wants to get his first shot the minute they’re available. We’re still hoping for a big, mask-free Thanksgiving – or at least Christmas. Jim, Carol and the grandparents have all now had their “covid booster shots.
We continue to watch Jeopardy every day and are enjoying both Matt Amodio’s amazing run of wins and Mayim Bialik’s excellent hosting. Dub is confident Mayim will be the Jeopards “forever host.” We’ll see.
He and Buzz still pile in bed with David and me every night at bedtime for family talk and reading. We’ve progressed from Dr. Seuss to our current title “The Extraordinary Life of Sam Hell”. We all enjoy the journey.
So that’s whats going on with Dub. He’s a great kid that we’re honored to be spending our lives with. But, of course we’re not exactly objective 🙂

Dudes. dudes. dudes. dudes. Yummy dudes. dudes. dudes.

If you ask us, these are some of the yummiest dudes we’ve run across in a while. Could almost be a WHOA post 🙂


We had a wonderful Thanksgiving. The club house at Koala Cove is finished and it was a perfect place for our “giving thanks get-together.” We missed having the grandparents with us this year, but we had an excellent Zoom with them that, kinda, sorta felt like being together. Surely, by next year we’ll all be able to get together – in person – complete with hugs!
“Dr. C” called Ben to tell him Evelyn’s attorney had paid a full years’ school tuition for Matty. It was a surprise, but as Ben said, “It’ll be money that’s available for some other kid who needs a good education.”
Ben and the kids had a full week off from school over the Thanksgiving holiday, so Dub worked with Nathan and his crew finishing up the addition to Chad and Raef’s house. It’s finished now and it’s wonderful. As the addition was being finished, Alex told the kids he had “new” furniture for them. He said he has a big credit at one of the consignment stores in Lenexa, KS and knew they had the right furniture. He had the people at the store e-mail pics so he could show Alyssa and Matty and they loved it. So, Chad and Raef rented a U-Haul and went and picked it up. It really is perfect.
I went over one day last week to watch the guys working on the addition. I swear, it’s like watching a ballet. Obviously, Nathan is in charge, but you’d never know it. The men on the crew just all know what needs to be done and they do it – without apparent direction. They do concrete work, carpentry, electrical, plumbing, flooring, painting and whatever else. I watched Dub and he was constantly working. No one was telling him what to do, he just did it. That evening at dinner, I asked him how he knew what to do. He thought about it for a minute- then said “Well, at first, I kept looking for what needed doing, but after a while, you just sort of ‘feel it.'”
Ben and the kids are back in school now and things are settling down after a big holiday – with another just around the corner.
We love you and wish you good health and happiness. Hang in there guys, the Covid vaccines will be here before we know it.

Hand prints

I ran across a self-pic on-line of a dude in a jockstrap (pic #1) and went “WHOA”!!! I showed it to David and he said “WHOA, indeed”!!! I thought it needed to be posted, so I started looking for pics. We haven’t done a “jockstraps” post since December 2018, and no “G-rated” posts since July, 2017, so this theme came to mind. I realize it won’t appeal to everyone, but it sure does it for me – and David says he likes it too. 🙂


So much to tell you. As soon as we moved to the lake, we started planning the new deck and hot tub. Alex had done sketches and we were excited. As it happened, Alex has an Amish crew that’s doing all the carpentry on the Koala cove villas, and they were waiting on materials he’d ordered. So he said we could use them to build our deck and privacy fencing if we wanted. We for sure did… so they started on the Tuesday before the 4th of July weekend. They took Saturday and Sunday off and were back at it on the next Monday. There are five of them and they’re the most talented carpenters we’ve ever see. They’re led by “Brother Nathan” who’s 26 and is “drop-dead gorgeous” (in a married, Amish, hands-off” sort of way). Dub thinks Nathan is awesome and told us he asked him if he needed a helper. Nathan asked him if he was a carpenter and Dub told him “No. but I can be if you teach me.” So he’s been helping Nathan every afternoon. Alex told us Nathan is crazy about kids and confided in him that he and his wife have been trying to get pregnant for over a year. He’s a really good guy and we’re hoping it’ll happen for them soon.
Our new 10-person hot tub is a “Hydropool” built in Canada. It’s been ordered for almost two weeks and will be here on Friday. It’s bigger than the hot tub in K.C.
but we won’t have trouble filling it with bodies (pics #49 through #52).
Ty and Damien told us there wasn’t any need for us to pay for water and electricity because they had plenty from their spring and solar panels. The crew has run water and electrical lines to our deck and it’ll be cool having free water and electricity.
The crew has built the deck using the specs provided by Hydropool so it’ll be ready when the hot tub arrives. They poured a concrete pad under the deck to support the tub and Dub said Nathan told him he should put his hand prints in the concrete. So Dub did that and wrote his name under them with a stick. When he was finished, he said “Now you, Nathan.” Nathan said he just laughed and said “No, not me. I’m just a carpenter.” He said Dub looked him in the eyes and said “Naw. You’re the best carpenter ever and my friend so you need to put your handprints next to mine.” So, Dub and Nathan’s handprints are in the concrete under the deck but no one will see them. Dub says “it doesn’t matter because we’re friends and we know they’re there.”